Crosspost from Ruth: http://gleaningthefields.com/2012/04/04/forgive-part-one/
There have been a few books that have really helped me understand my journey to healing. I don’t believe in quick fixes, or free lunches, or get-rich-quick schemes. I believe in the law of he harvest, we reap what we sow. Yes, I’ve seen miracles, and I believe in miracles and gifts from God–the atonement being in the forefront. But most of us humans have to do things the ordinary, slow, hard, way. We cant and really mustn’t expect to get through the journey of mortality without some bumps and scratches along the way. Some of us get by with little scratches here and there. Others end up in ICU fighting for their lives (figuratively speaking but this can also be quite literally). The interesting thing is that often those with mere scratches feel the pain just as intensely and the ones in ICU! In fact, those in the intensive care unit are spared pain because they have the benefit of loss on consciousness, pain medication, and a dedicated team of professionals fighting for healing right along with them. Those with bumps, bruises, and often some invisible hurts are left to “man up” and continue to put one foot in front of another without the cheering squad.
I didn’t think I had a problem with forgiving myself when my therapist handed me this book. Logically, I know that I did the best I knew how–in fact, part of me knows that I’ve endured rather well. I am not completely without self esteem. Most of the time I know I have value and purpose. Most of the time I know that I’m loved, and forgiven. But I was surprised at what I learned from this book. I recommend it for anyone who isn’t perfect, and knows it. My only complaint is that it is written for an LDS audience and its message is truly applicable to anyone of faith. Just reading the introduction was validating and therapeutic. If you are not LDS, just gloss over the the strange jargon, the message is true and really helps shed common misperceptions that Christians in particular beat themselves with. Better yet, it offers solutions and exercises in clearing up your thinking. Instead of promising complete healing the author seeks to give more healing, more comfort, less disfunction and fear. Realistic solutions for real people, with real problems, who are just doing the best they can with what they have.